It's been a year and half I didn't write anything.
Actually, there are many topics that I planned to bring in. But,
well, plan is just a plan.
So, today, I
decided to start writing because the topic is very familiar with me in the last
8 months. I’ve often heard the news of people committing suicide in recent
times. The news that is still fresh in my mind is about Korean celebrity who committed
suicide in mid-December 2017. It was Shinee's lead singer, Kim Jong – Hyun. Media
predicted that his major depression causes the suicide. Then, on May 2017, the
lead singer from Linkin Park (that I really adored), Chester Bennington, also
did same by hanging himself. He has been suffered the addiction for years.
From his close friend, most likely the trigger of his suicide is because of the
alcohol abuse. Another case was happened in my neighborhood on last August
2017. It was a man who lives near my house. It was surprising me since I haven’t
expected this kind of case occur in my circle.
After all those cases,
I became curious and ask to myself:
“Why do people end
their own life like that?”
“Is it that easy?”
But then, I thought
that every human being should known that death is a painful thing. So, People
who choose to dead is surely have big problem. I searched and found out that
major psychiatric illness, especially major depression is the
number one cause. People who have major depression disorder or one of the
mental disorders such as bipolar disorder have a higher risk, up to 20 times,
to commit suicide. Other conditions involved were schizophrenia (14%),
personality disorder (14%), and post-traumatic stress disorder. Other reasons
such as substance abuse (narcotics or alcohol), terminal illness, sexual
harassment, economic problem, body image disorder, and mass media is also
playing substantial role as the cause of suicide.
Furthermore, from
the information of those who close with the suicide, they didn’t expect that It
could happen (yes just like me), though, mostly, the suicide show the
signs. The sign may be varied, so that, sometimes people doesn't
consider it. Showing sadness and hopelessness is one of the
common sign. The man who committed suicide in my neighbor was telling
his daughter that he felt very useless. It was because of his terminal illness
that He could not do anything he wanted. I also remember in several months ago
when he was still alive, I did not see he did much activities. Even in Lebaran,
I didn’t see him getting ready for celebrating. In Chester' case, he
also express his hopelessness while having interview with Music Choices
several months before his death. He said "I have a hard time with life, even when it's good; I just am
uncomfortable all the time. . . ., 'I don't like my mind right now' – like,
that is me 24 hours a day. And if I get stuck in here, like, I just find life
really hard. It doesn't have to be”. Other signs that can be seen are having loss of self-esteem and
negative comment about self-worth. Refer
to Jong-hyun's farewell writing, He wrote that He hate himself because He can’t find
any answer of his problem, even though He has got treatment, cried and shouted.
He also blames himself about what happen to him. From his close friend, He also has excessive
worried of his talent until that He did not confident to himself. Jong - hyun
also often talked about death. His friend revealed that on
early December, he spoke about death to him.
Can you imagine how hard it is?
It is so sad to read the articles, especially to the suicide who show sign but the environment is indifferent with it. I mean those people crying out for help. So, we should at least giving little bit attention toward them. We can start asking direct question like “What is in your mind?" or as simple as “ How are you?”. If they tell you about the desire of death, then do not judge or show the criticism. Let them tell you everything and listen to them. They need someone to listen and open their mind that there are many ways to solve the problem besides ending their life. Other thing that we can do is keeping dangerous things (knife, rope, mosquito poison, etc) and not letting them to be alone. Most suicide cases happened when there are no people around them. Then, inviting her/him to do the activity also may help. It can drain their negative energy, so it may distract them from suicide ideas. Attending the event that related of spirituality, of course, is better. Because, I think people need to believe that The Will of Allah or God is the best grace. Allah always knows better than us, right? If you think that the person needs special treatment from professional, refer her / him to psychologist or psychiatrist. I think professional know better than us how to cure and eliminating the desire. In the case of emergency, call someone or police to help, so we can prevent suicide.
It is so sad to read the articles, especially to the suicide who show sign but the environment is indifferent with it. I mean those people crying out for help. So, we should at least giving little bit attention toward them. We can start asking direct question like “What is in your mind?" or as simple as “ How are you?”. If they tell you about the desire of death, then do not judge or show the criticism. Let them tell you everything and listen to them. They need someone to listen and open their mind that there are many ways to solve the problem besides ending their life. Other thing that we can do is keeping dangerous things (knife, rope, mosquito poison, etc) and not letting them to be alone. Most suicide cases happened when there are no people around them. Then, inviting her/him to do the activity also may help. It can drain their negative energy, so it may distract them from suicide ideas. Attending the event that related of spirituality, of course, is better. Because, I think people need to believe that The Will of Allah or God is the best grace. Allah always knows better than us, right? If you think that the person needs special treatment from professional, refer her / him to psychologist or psychiatrist. I think professional know better than us how to cure and eliminating the desire. In the case of emergency, call someone or police to help, so we can prevent suicide.
I would like you to
know that I am not a professional or specialist of suicide case. But, with the
growing number of suicide, we should more aware of this problem. This writing
is based on my searching article on the internet. I wrote the sources
below, if you want to know more.
Thanks for reading!
Thanks for reading!
Xoxo,
Risya Amarilia
Source:
http://www.medbroadcast.com/condition/getcondition/suicide
https://dokterindonesiaonline.com/2014/08/22/15-penyebab-dan-faktor-resiko-terjadinya-kasus-bunuh-diri/
http://www.alodokter.com/kenali-faktor-pemicu-dan-tanda-tanda-bunuh-diri
http://showbiz.liputan6.com/read/3200587/curhat-dengan-sahabat-jonghyun-shinee-ungkap-penyebab-depresi
http://showbiz.liputan6.com/read/3200728/jonghyun-shinee-tumpahkan-penderitaan-dalam-surat-wasiat
https://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/inside-linkin-park-singer-chester-benningtons-last-days-w495942
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